Questions and Answers

The following are some questions that we’ve received from readers and the answers provided by Coach Pat Street. If you have a question you would like answered, just send it to us by using the “Contact Us” link above.


Q: Coach Street, I’ve gotten in with the wrong crowd. I don’t like the things I’m getting into. How can I get out?

A: You may feel like you can’t get away from the crowd in your own strength but God wants to help you, if you let Him. The Bible says, “I can do everything through Him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13), and that’s the key to changing your life – Jesus, is the One who gives you strength. The first thing you need to do is to honestly confess your sins to God, ask His forgiveness, and invite Jesus to come into your heart by faith, but when Jesus comes in to your heart and life things will be different. The Bible promises that, “If anyone be in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (1 Corinthians 5:17).

With Jesus in your life you must make a clean break from the crowd and find a new set of friends who will honestly help you. Look for other Christians, they will help you grow spiritually and become stronger in your faith – get involved in FCA at your school, go to a Bible teaching youth group – get plugged into where God’s presence can empower you and His Word is building you up.

Upward bound, Coach Street

Q: Coach Street, All my parents do is criticize me. They are always complaining about my friends, my schoolwork, my attitudes – just about everything! How can I get them off my back?

A: I know it can be tough as you reach the point in your life that you want more independence and that’s not necessarily bad. But part of growing up is taking responsibility for your attitudes and actions. Responsibility means taking an honest look at what your parents are pointing out in your life – such as, are they wrong or right about your schoolwork? Are your grades suffering because of laziness? What about your friends, are they a positive or negative influence on you? Your parents want the best for you. I discovered that when my parents wanted to know where I was going, who I was go to be with, what were we going to do (though it appeared to be “nosy”) the reality was they were just watching out for me. How about your attitude? Is it what you know it should be?

Now I’m not saying that parents have it all together, but the Bible says, “Obey your parents in the Lord, for this is the right” (Ephesians 6:1). If obey them seems to hard turn it over to the Lord and ask Him to help you.

Take this suggestion, try sitting down and talking to them – share your feelings . . . share your heart. I think sometimes parents are critical and don’t even realize it.

My prayer is that you let God help you and He will make a difference in your relationship with your parents.

Upward bound, Coach Street

Q: Coach Street, how far is too far?

A: I once read where a father was asked the question, by his son, “Dad, how far can I go on a date?” It was obvious he wasn’t asking if he could go 5 miles to Pizza Hut or 8 miles to a movie. He wanted to know what his dad thought were reasonable and biblical limits on physical contact during dating. Hand-holding? A quick peck on the cheek? A lingering kiss? A hug? A long embrace? Anything short of doing it all?

The father made a comment that I thought was very wise . . . and which agrees with the message of 1 Thessalonians 4:

“No one should wrong his brother [or sister] or take advantage of him [or her]” (vs. 6)

He said, “Keep in mind that when you go out on a date, the person you are with is probably not the person you will marry. Thinking ahead, how far would you like your future wife to have gone with that person in a dating situation?”

Interesting answer, isn’t it? How would you like someone to treat your future husband or wife? With utmost respect and purity, right?

On the other side, if you are the one who is pressured to satisfy someone’s cravings, you’re left feeling cheapened and thinking less of yourself.

In today’s world, however, the message seems to be: “Don’t bother to think ahead to what your actions will do to your date’s relationship with God. Don’t think about his or her emotional well-being or future marriage partner. Think only of your immediate pleasure.”

In the matter of sex, the apostle Paul said, “No one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.” With that as your guide, how would you answer someone who asked you, “How far is to far?”

Upward bound, Coach Street